Girl Talk
Niggas, this one here is for the ladies. Please leave the chat room.
Ladies. Have you ever taken accountability for your toxic habits? Do you even acknowledge your toxic traits and habits? Stop fucking lying you have them.
Im not gon hold you. I’ve had my share of toxic habits that I don’t take pride in. At all. It took a couple of Ls from different situations for me to realize, damn, maybe it is me. I’m talking about relationships, friendships, and even careerships. I just made my own word up. Im screaming.
So unfortunately, I do not have the official toxic-free blueprint for the ladies, but I do have a plethora of habits I began implementing with the intentions of creating healthier relationships in my life. Take my lil advice with a grain of salt. Because at the end of the day we all handle shit differently and everybody’s circumstances are not the same.
First of all, It was imperative that I began shedding negative thinking patterns that weren’t conducive to my growth. I realized I was embodying toxic when it began messing with my health, the way I saw myself in the mirror, my money…. Negative thinking patterns will trickle down into ever area of your life if it goes undetected for a period of time. I once ruined a good relationship because I couldn’t let go of mistakes that were made in the past. I would replay conversations in my head that rubbed me the wrong way. Over and over and over. All the shit I should have clapped back with, the way I could have gotten revenge. The way I was gonna act to that specific person moving forward. THIS THINKING PATTERN WILL SEVERELY DAMAGE YOUR MENTAL. It does nothing for you except create imaginary trauma and resentment. MADD stress built up in the noggin. You gotta be willing to forgive and move on from negative situations if it’s worth saving your relationship. Feeding your mind half truths will only create more insecurities, and that’s unnecessary if you really over the situation. If you not over the situation find a way to make peace with it so you can refrain from getting heart failure in your sleep. Sounds dramatic but I hope you get the point.
Next, confide in someone you trust yourself to be vulnerable with. It’s so important knowing you have a safe haven to release your pain. I have several outlets I turn to when my intentions are to feel every emotion right before I release the pain. I get on my knees and I pray to God. I also journal to God and I make sure that I am honest. I have this dope relationship with God where I’ll confide in him, and he’ll send me a sign that he heard me; through symbols like colors and numbers. Create your own understanding with God so he can send a sign that he is always there. The thought of him hearing my cry comforts me every time. Also, consider confiding in someone that you can trust to be brutally honest with you. Someone to tell you when you’re deadass wrong. And it’s okay to listen. Hearing testimonies from real life experiences can give you a new perspective and change your whole outlook on a situation. The gym is also a very big outlet for me. It helps me with releasing bad energy and focus on my breathing. Learning how to breathe also goes hand in hand with meditation. These all help me release built up tension that sits on my chest.
Lastly, Ima say this. The only person you have control over is yourself. Showing vulnerability and accountability proves that you are mature enough to correct yourself. It’s okay to ask for help if you don’t know how to handle tough experiences. I am a very impulsive person, and I often react before I think, and then regret it later. Don’t be me ladies. Be aware of yourself enough to know when you are embodying negativity. It will seriously begin to show up in every area of your life and that is something you don’t want.